If you’re a woman of a certain age, you might have considered hormone replacement therapy to restore lost oestrogen and get rid of the annoying symptoms of menopause. But while your doctor will have told you about the health risks of HRT, she’ll almost certainly not have mentioned its effects on your desire for sexual variety and your chances of straying from the marital bed.Continue Reading
Would you like to understand the real science behind our desires and preferences and how it can help you in your own
relationships? Want to meet other like-minded men and women? We’re running one-day workshops, presented in a fun, informal, multimedia format and led by Dr Mairi Macleod. Refreshments provided. Come and enjoy the discussion!
Day 1: What Men & Women Want & Why; Personality & Relationships; Are we Built for Monogamy?
Day 2: Attachment Styles & Relationships; Personal Scent & Attraction; Evolving Relationships in the Modern World.
Had a great night on Thursday this week at Cabaret Voltaire, Edinburgh, talking about where our stereotypes about attraction and relationships come from and where they fall wide of the mark. Great crowd and lovely relaxed atmosphere. We’re going to be running more of these talks soon – one on “The Importance of Being Smelly”, and another on “Attachment and How to Find a Secure Partnership”.
If you’d like to know more, or would like a talk like this at another venue contact us!
Thursday 26th January 2017, 18.30 – 21.30
Cabaret Voltaire, Edinburgh. Free Admission.
We’re running an event in conjunction with the Ragged University Meetup group, featuring a talk by Dr Mairi Macleod on “The Myths of Attraction” at the Cabaret Voltaire. Come along and relax with a drink and listen to the talk (at 7pm) and then stick around and socialise into the night…
The talk (1 hour-ish):
Is it true that men are into casual sex but women want commitment? Do men actually prefer thin women? Do women want macho, high-status men? Are dumb girls more attractive? And are the first impressions we give out really vitally important?
In this presentation Mairi Macleod will answer these questions about romantic attraction and much more.Continue Reading
Check out this video for thoughts on how things change with relationships at different times of life, on infidelity, on maintaining desire, and on picking the right man…
On a daily basis we see the beautiful, successful, desirable people behaving and looking in a particular way on our screens, and so we can be forgiven for thinking that there are certain qualities that are going to make us irresistible to potential dates. But the thing is, if you conform to a particular stereotype in order to be attractive, you’re going to attract people who are drawn to that particular stereotype – and the research suggests that really might not be what you want…Continue Reading
If you sit in a pub with a bunch of single women of a certain age and they’re talking about men, the common refrain will be that there are hardly any good men, the ones they fancy won’t commit and the best are already taken. Men – of any age – seem mostly concerned with getting into women’s knickers. Ok yes, there are lots of exceptions but you know what I mean; for most men getting a variety of sex presents more of a challenge than they would like. The point is, at some point both genders think they’re at a disadvantage, women in getting commitment, men in getting sex, and neither sex get enough of what they want.
So what is the truth of the matter? Is it harder for men or for women? Who has the upper hand? According to newly published research, which sex gets its own way is a question of supply and demand.Continue Reading
When my kids were small they, like other small kids, loved Disney movies. One we watched over and over of course was Snow White, but it always made me a bit uncomfortable when it got to the so called ‘happy ending’ where the handsome Prince plonks SW on to his big white horse and they ride off into the sunset to live happily ever after.
“But no”, I wanted to tell them, “In the real world this would just be the beginning of her problems”. Let’s face it, an alpha-male like that who’s both gorgeous and minted will have plenty of pretty princesses fawning at his feet and so Snow White will have her work cut out for her.Continue Reading
Lily Allen is irritating feminists again. Here’s what she thinks about how women are judged:
“I don’t think men are the enemy, I think women are the enemy. I know that when I’m sitting in a restaurant and a really beautiful woman walks in, who’s skinny, I instinctively think, “Oh she’s really skinny and beautiful and I’m really fat and ugly.” Every man I speak to always says they find that kind of woman gross, and they prefer a bit more meat on their ladies. So it’s more of a competitive thing. It’s weird. It’s just really unhealthy and we’re our own worst enemy. We should stop being so horrible to each other.”
Or as Callie Beusman at Jezebel has helpfully summarized:
“Ugh, women are so mean to each other. I’m jealous of other women. But it’s ok, men say they’re disgusting and I’m better. God, we should stop being mean to each other!”
Ok so Allen is as bad as anyone else on the bitching front but actually she’s right on the money in her analysis of women’s attitudes to each other.Continue Reading